Ask an Expert: What is the Main Reason for Recovery?
By Jim Cress, Licensed Professional Counselor, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, Certified Multiple Addictions Therapist, Certified Parter Trauma Therapist (IITAP)
There are a number of crucial questions when it comes to people in recovery. Some of these ponderings are more shallow, while others are deeper. If you think about it, acting out in my addiction somehow made sense. It felt good. I was able to momentarily escape some of the realities in my life. I had used this medicator since childhood. Who knows, maybe my addiction to pornography, or sexually acting out in infidelity may have kept me alive. Pain is real. Childhood and family of origin pain is palpable.
So now you have come to a place in your life where you have a longing to live free from the obsessions and compulsions of sexually acting out. At least you think you want something more. Whether your sexual secrets got discovered, or you stepped up and disclosed your infidelity, you find yourself standing here at this D-Day wondering what your future holds. Will my partner ever forgive me? Will she ever be able to heal from the damage I’ve done? And yes, am I even sure I am ready to go “all in” with what will be required of me to walk a path of integrity, healing, and honesty?
Join us in Eva in November!
In addition to our customary workshops and Silas walks, our annual retreat will feature Roane, Eva, and Roe Hunter as our presenters.
Roane and Eva, international bestselling authors of Sex, God, and the Chaos of Betrayal: The Couples Road Map of Hope and Healing from Infidelity, Affairs, Pornography, and Sexual Addiction, are licensed and certified Sex Addiction (CSAT) and Multiple Addiction (CMAT) therapists and supervisors, as well as popular speakers at churches, seminars and retreats sharing their remarkable journey from false intimacy to redemptive intimacy.
Along with their son, Roe, who is also a licensed counselor and CSAT, they conduct couples’ intensives and workshops, men’s intensives and coaching retreats, and women’s intensives and retreats, in addition to their private practice.
The theme of their presentations will be: Sexual Brokenness: A Family Affair.
Live in the Freedom of Authenticity
Show your patriotic and Samson pride with these new shirt designs (available in a variety of shirt colors) declaring the freedom of authenticity.
As of June 12, 2022, the CDC no longer requires air passengers traveling from a foreign country to the United States to show a negative COVID-19 viral test or documentation of recovery from COVID-19 before they board their flight.
So join us in Italy this October! There are two destination options:
- separate men’s and women’s retreats happening in the Apennine mountains, about 2 hours away from Rome on Oct 7-9 (LEARN MORE)
- a men’s retreat in northern Italy at Forterocca near the French border on Oct. 14-16 (LEARN MORE)
Hear a little about what Kaka Ray, one of the retreat speakers, will be speaking about at the Italian retreats in this Pirate Monk Podcast!
Monthly Resource Corner
Each month, Samson Society will promote a resource that you may find helpful on your journey. Feel free to share any podcast episodes, blog posts, books, or documentaries that you find enlightening! Email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
We all know the struggle – we go to our group meeting, we leave feeling so great and determined, and late at night the next day we’re on our own again and deep in temptation. And in those moments it’s hard to take that step and reach out to our Silas or other brothers who can be our rescuing angels.
That’s why fellow pirate monk Chandler Rogers built Relay: it’s an app that will match you into a team of Samson brothers to stay connected and accountable 24/7. The “red flag” SOS button at the bottom of the app just takes one tap to send a notification to your whole team that you need support – it makes vulnerability much easier. Relay also helps you track your sobriety streak, set daily goals, start conversations, and build relationships.
Download the app and then use the code
SAMSON to join a team with other Pirate Monks + receive a one-month free trial!
To learn more about the app and the Relay team, check out Chandler’s Pirate Monk podcast interview with Nate Larkin.
Partner With Us as We Grow
Samson Society does not have dues or fees, but we do have expenses. Help us introduce more men to recovery by making a monthly contribution (suggested $20.00, if you’re able give more, please don’t hesitate). We will work tirelessly to keep your trust.
Considering how much time and expense we have put into unwanted, unfulfilling habits, many of us have recognized it only makes sense to invest in our own and other’s recovery.