The No Bull Briefing Newsletter – March 2022

We Have Merch!

We are excited to announce that Samson Society now has a merchandise store with items ranging from drinkware to apparel and accessories. Visit the store today and show your Pirate Monk pride!

Don’t see what you want? More items will be added to the store soon, so drop us a line to let us know what you’d like to see available for sale.

 

Share Your Samson Story

Nate Larkin is working on the second edition of Samson and the Pirate Monks.  This revised and expanded edition will feature dozens of real stories contributed by members of the Samson Society.

Nate is looking for brothers who are willing to add their own redemption story to the collection.  Here are the guidelines:

  • Each story must be a true account of personal experience
  • Each story should focus on a single crisis, issue, breakthrough, or insight
  • Stories should be 750-1500 words in length
  • Submissions will be edited for clarity and brevity
  • Authors may give their real name or choose to be anonymous.

If you are willing to share the lessons of your experience with readers around the world, drop a line today to submissions@samsonhouse.org and let us know that you intend to participate.

 

The Story of Trying a Triad

When I went to my first Samson Society meeting I knew what I was getting into, but I was reluctant to engage in a Silas relationship. I had two tapes playing in my head: “Check in every day?! C’mon, you can’t even talk to God every day. You’ll never be able to do it. You’ll be marked as a non-compliant wanna-be.” And the other one went something like this: “You don’t need a Silas. You can do this on your own. Just keep this between you and God. Anyway, how’s that guy going to help, he’s here for the same reason you are.

Okay, full disclosure, I was partially right on the first one – I suck at daily check-ins, but I was dead wrong about the possibility of recovery without a Silas. The Silas relationship isn’t a recovery option, it is an essential.

Once I swallowed hard and asked Walt to be my Silas, I discovered why it is central to the Samson Path. That said, after a few years of check-ins, irregular as they may have been, I was wanting more, looking for some sort of next step in my recovery. I discovered Walt was too.

I wondered if adding a third and making it a triad of Silases might be that little something extra – you know, that cord of three strands thing. My thought was to increase availability, accountability, and add another perspective. Maybe that would spice things up a bit and enhance all of our recovery efforts.

There would be no Silee, we would each function as Silas/Silee with each other, all responsible for daily check-ins. We decided to give it a go and we added Lonnie. Now after two years of doing a Silas Triad we can confidently affirm it works.

Here are the takeaways from our Silas Triad experiment:

  • It is a good enhancement after a year or two of the traditional model. Our reasoning is it takes a while to get used to checking in with a Silas, trust the system, and value the process. Before it gets stale, switch to the triad.
  • It is harder to fall into a rut of same-old-same-old check-ins.
  • It is harder to BS two guys.
  • The shared wisdom of three is far more impactful.
  • When one is struggling, the encouragement of two is also more impactful.
  • One out of the three will always be available, making an in-the-heat-of-the-moment live check-in more doable.

After some trial-and-error, we settled in on daily three-way text check-ins (we still fail at “daily” but grace abounds), an extended phone call every 2-3 weeks, and an in-person get-together once a quarter-ish, either at a local restaurant or one of our backyard fire pits because we live relatively close to one another.

The traditional check-in model is: “This is what I’m feeling…thinking…doing…and thinking of doing.” We have modified that, adding ND (which stands for “not doing”), Trig (which stands for “triggers”), and PFM (which is, how you can “Pray For Me”).

Here’s what a typical text check-in will look like:

→ F – I’m feeling tired and stressed

→ T – about how far behind I am at work

→ D – nothing bad but last night I was SO close to the ditch

→ ToD – checkin in with you guys more frequently – I need it

→ ND – I need to call when I’m super tempted but I don’t

→ Trig – girls at work in spring dresses AARRGH!

→ PFM – relational warmth between my wife and me

More often than not the text check-in takes about 90 seconds and responses about 30 seconds just to let the sender know he’s been heard. Longer feedback is always appreciated. The periodic three-way phone call takes about 60 minutes, and the get-together is an evening.

If your Silas relationship is getting stale, or if you’ve cycled through several Silases, try the Silas Triad, it just might do the trick.

Drop me a line with questions and feedback. If I get enough I’ll update everyone in a future NBB: Tom Moucka, tom@samsonhouse.org

 

Ciao Amico!

Do you sometimes find yourself acting or reacting in immature ways? Does conflict with your partner sometimes degenerate into childish language or behavior? In this retreat, Nate Larkin and Kaka Ray will explore what it takes to “grow up” into free and fully integrated adulthood, capable of connecting deeply with another person.

Join us in Italy from October 7-9, 2022, for a weekend retreat. Find out more information or save your spot today by clicking here.

 

2023 Mega Retreat Team

The planning for our 2023 Mega Retreat is under way, but we can still use your help! Let us know if you are interested in volunteering on any of the following crews:

  • Location Crew
  • Registration Crew
  • Transportation Crew
  • Set-Up Crew
  • A/V Crew
  • Communications Crew
  • Swag Crew
  • Talent Crew
  • Sales & Marketing Crew

Email us at samsonhouseoffice@gmail.com and be a part of making history for Samson!

Also: Mark your calendars for this year’s annual men’s retreat! It will be in Eva, Tennessee the first weekend in November. We hope to see you there.

 

Monthly Resource Corner

Each month, Samson Society will promote a resource that you may find helpful on your journey. Feel free to share any podcast episodes, blog posts, books, or documentaries that you find enlightening! Email us at samsonhouseoffice@gmail.com.

In a world in which we experience such deep desire and such great grief, we find coursing through all of it our unquenchable longing to be known. The Being Known podcast, hosted by Dr. Curt Thompson and Pepper Sweeney, is a podcast about forming deep relationships, discovering meaning and living with integrated creativity.

The new season that launched a few weeks ago, focuses on looking at trauma through the lens of hope instead of fear.⁠ Hope for those who know what trauma is up close and personal, as well as for those who may have little to no idea that they have encountered it, let alone that others have. And that hope is ultimately to be found in Jesus, who appears to have made it his mission to redeem trauma wherever he finds it. ⁠Part of that redemptive process includes our telling the story of trauma as truly as we can—so that evil doesn’t get to have the last word. ⁠

Give it a listen and discover what it means to be truly known, exploring the intersection of interpersonal neurobiology (IPNB) and Christian spiritual formation. 

The podcast is available to listen on any of the following platforms:

 

Support Samson House Year-Round

The end-of-year matching fundraiser was a phenomenal success! However, as Samson House continues to grow and expand our reach, our budgetary needs continue to expand as well.

Monthly giving helps keep us afloat throughout the year. Consider supporting Samson House by pledging a monthly gift. Give $54 a month and you will receive a coffee mug in the mail and the rights to boldly assert your membership to our Mug Club!

If your current giving makes you a member of the mug club, but you have yet to receive a mug in the mail from us, please contact us and we will correct this oversight.

 

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